I may not have Internet for a few days, (Don't forget about me!)
I've been playing taxi for my parents as my dads doctor is making him take a driving test, And it's just easier for me to stay over there with Gas prices the way they are. For the time being I have 10 hours of Netzero, but I can sneeze that looking at Deviantart.
The whole "Nice Guy" vrs "Asshole" thing just irritates me... Having my gender categorized into two opposing forces while assuming we can't be as individual as women, irritates me... People thinking that women are too stupid to know one from the other of these imaginary forces, irritates me... Slews of guys bitching about how nice they are while simultaneously complaining about their lack of pooty, irritates the ever living fuck out of me.
But it does prove my point...
Here's the truth...
"Assholes" get what they want because what they want is shallow, ultimately unfulfilling and easy to come by.
"Nice guys" Want the same stuff as the assholes, and are simply too limp-wristed to be up front about it. So they go to Machiavellian lengths to be just as shallow in the end.
"Nice guys" will do far more damage in the end than the "asshole." Because at least the asshole is open about his nature.
I don't know any woman who wouldn't agree that It's better to be fucked over after a few weeks of argumentative socialization and argument fueled sex, than to be fucked over after 12 years of non-opinionated he-bitching and geekish groping.
Look up "Nice" in your dictionary... It's a social construct that gives the illusion of kindness without actually having to be kind. "niceness" is for social interaction with strangers, not relationships.
Kindness is for relationships.
In fact... just for the sake of research...
Guy: A subordinate, socially ambiguous, informal term for a male.
Man: A male person who plays a significant role (husband or lover or boyfriend) in the life of a particular woman.
Personally... If I had to categorize. I'd call myself a "Fair Man."
Here's how, it's simple...
Be fair... Nice when it's called for, Kind as often as possible, Asshole when it's necessary. (And yes, it is occasionally necessary.)
Be a Man... Not a "Guy"... Be significant, not ambiguous.
Make an example of assholes, and make a habit of calling the Nice Guy on his utter bullshit.